For many people, the new year is a new beginning, a chance to start over. And actually, a very optimistic person might view divorce in the same way. I think divorce, as sad as it is, can also mean new opportunity, a happier life, and a more peaceful existence. So, when it comes to divorce and the new year, there are certain new year's resolutions every divorced person should consider, actions that will make 2014 your best year ever!
1. I will treat my ex with kindness and respect.
Are you rolling your eyes? Don't! Treating your ex this way is good for YOU and good for your kids. Have you ever heard anyone say, "I wish I wouldn't have been so nice?" No.
Are you rolling your eyes? Don't! Treating your ex this way is good for YOU and good for your kids. Have you ever heard anyone say, "I wish I wouldn't have been so nice?" No.
2. I will only talk about my ex in a good way in front of our kids.
When kids hear their mom or dad talk about the other in a negative way, it seriously kills them. They hate it so much. Please, call your girlfriend and use every four letter word you can about your ex if you need to, but do it in private.
When kids hear their mom or dad talk about the other in a negative way, it seriously kills them. They hate it so much. Please, call your girlfriend and use every four letter word you can about your ex if you need to, but do it in private.
3. I will stop looking at old photos of my ex until I can do it without crying.
Why are you torturing and/or punishing yourself? This is so unproductive. Do you realize how huge this earth is, and how many people are on it? Your ex is only one person and somewhere out there, there is a great guy or girl that is a better person for you. And you will meet that person if you have an open heart.
Why are you torturing and/or punishing yourself? This is so unproductive. Do you realize how huge this earth is, and how many people are on it? Your ex is only one person and somewhere out there, there is a great guy or girl that is a better person for you. And you will meet that person if you have an open heart.
4. I will make more of an effort and keep an open mind when it comes to dating.
This is the year to say yes to blind dates, get your profile up on a dating site, and reach out to that guy who you know has an interest in you. What are you waiting for? Life goes by fast. You deserve to be happy! Start living!
This is the year to say yes to blind dates, get your profile up on a dating site, and reach out to that guy who you know has an interest in you. What are you waiting for? Life goes by fast. You deserve to be happy! Start living!
5. I will take the high road, regardless of how my ex is acting.
In case your ex doesn't get around to reading this blog, and he or she is his or her same old self, acting rude, being short, saying cruel things, just let it roll off of you like rain on a plastic rain coat. If you act polite, you will never be sorry. What good does acting rude back do? Nothing but hurt your children.
In case your ex doesn't get around to reading this blog, and he or she is his or her same old self, acting rude, being short, saying cruel things, just let it roll off of you like rain on a plastic rain coat. If you act polite, you will never be sorry. What good does acting rude back do? Nothing but hurt your children.
6. I will stop talking about him/her to everyone who will listen.
No one wants to meet you for a beer and hear about what a bitch your ex is. They want to watch football and talk about how the Bears just blew the playoffs. And girls, no one wants to have a glass of wine while listening to you talk about the hoe your ex is seeing. Ask about HER. Ask her if she knows anyone to set you up with. So much more productive and positive!
No one wants to meet you for a beer and hear about what a bitch your ex is. They want to watch football and talk about how the Bears just blew the playoffs. And girls, no one wants to have a glass of wine while listening to you talk about the hoe your ex is seeing. Ask about HER. Ask her if she knows anyone to set you up with. So much more productive and positive!
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